The 4 of us went to the Parole Office last Tuesday. We were there for a long time - we were there about 20 minutes early for the appt. Someone finally called Mike into the talk to the P.O. He was back there for about half an hour. Mike came out & Shannon was called back. Another half an hour. When she came out, Seth & I met with the guy for 10 or 15 minutes.
He has to do a report & submit it to the court. I don't feel like we're going to get a whole lot of support from him. The new sentencing date is Feb. 14th - just a few weeks before the baby will arrive.
One of the worst parts of all of this is the "not knowing" what's going to happen. How much time in jail will Mike & Shannon get? Anywhere from no time/all parole to 2 years plus parole is the way I understand it. The "no time" doesn't seem real likely. Mike seems to be ready to do what needs to be done to get this over with. Shannon is just plain terrified.
They've settled in real well here. Seth is spoiling them rotten in every way he can. Me? I just try to cook things that they'll like. They're kinda picky when it comes to food - and they don't like cheese for the most part - that presents a real challenge to me.
They attended Memorial Service with us this morning. They've met quite a few of our Brethern already at Wed. night class & Fri. night Bible Readings. It makes me feel so good to see how welcoming & friendly everyone is with them. Everyone accepts them for who they are & no one looks down on them. That's gotta feel good. I hope they got something out of meeting today.
Anyway, we're kinda on hold for right now so I probably won't do anymore updating until the sentencing date. There really won't be a lot to say - our days are very calm & peaceful, as they should be.
They slept in a real bed for the first time in a long time on Tuesday night. :-) The things so many of us take for granted...
Their sentencing date was Jan. 24th. It's been put off for a week or 2. The "Pre-Sentencing" people never contacted them until this week. They meet with these people on Tuesday. Seth & I will go along for support & to add our 2 cents. Maybe if the judge & the other court people realize that we have plans in place to help these 2 get on their feet, they'll go a little easier on them. Can't hurt to try.
We're trying to make their lives as comfortable as we can until they have to leave. That means buying Shannon all the chocolate stuff she wants, for one thing! And Mike loves bread so I picked up a couple loaves of Panera bread for him. I'm getting to feel like a mom again & that makes me really happy.
Mike is only too eager to help around the house - he vacuumed & steam cleaned the living room carpet yesterday while I was at the dentist. Shannon's just kinda relaxing & letting the 3 of us take care of her - which is what I want - she's almost 8 months pregnant & very scared about her future. They are able to keep themselves occupied. They've been doing jigsaw puzzles, Sudoku, etc. Seth set up a computer for them so they can play around & watch DVDs on it. I was concerned that they would be terribly bored here. It's very peaceful & quiet for the most part - not what they're used to! That doesn't seem to be a problem. :-)
They went to Wed. night Bible Class with Seth & they are at Friday night Family Bible Readings with him this evening - because they wanted to go.
All of this is bringing back a lot of good memories of Shane. Mike is a year younger than Shane would be right now. And with the baby coming, it's bringing back a lot of memories from when Shane was a baby. Having a baby here will allow me to be a surrogate Grandma. I had just given up on the Grandma thing.
The situation has been very good for all of us. Seth & I are thankful that we've been blessed enough to be able to help these 2 kids & expand our 2-person family. It's almost selfish of us because it feels so good to be able to provide for those who have some real basic needs & who truly appreciate what we're doing for them.
If Shane was still alive, our lives would be totally different & we wouldn't be involved in this situation. Is this the reason we had to lose him? I don't know if there is "a reason" for why he died but I really want to there to be one. And I've been praying for a reason for me to keep going on in this life for the past 2 3/4 yrs. I needed a purpose to keep living. Mike & Shannon & their unborn child have given that to me. A reason to look forward to the future, when there was nothing to look forward to for so long. I think all of us will be better people for coming together as a family when all is said & done. There is a lot of love here...
I wasn't home long before we had to leave to pick up Shannon & Mike. Shannon had a Dr's appt. today with her OB/GYN Doc. The two of them have been pretty much walking everywhere they needed to go for awhile now. It's starting to get a bit cold now. When I talked to Shannon the last time, I told her to call us if she needs something - a ride some place or whatever. She called yesterday to ask if we could take her to her appt. I'm so glad she did, for a number of reasons:
1. Neither of them have winter jackets/coats & it was windy & cold today.
2. She was in some real pain since yesterday & was sent to the hospital ER from her Dr's appt. to find out what was going on. She has a urinary tract infection. I can't even imagine them walking to the Dr's & then all the way to the hospital & then back to the place where they are staying again. We're not talking a mile or 2 or even 5 here.
3. While we were waiting for Shannon to be called back to be examined at the ER she mentioned that she was hungry. We were planning to go out to eat together anyway. She said that all she had to eat today was a piece of jelly bread. At one point Seth asked her why that was all she had to eat - because that's all she wanted or because that's all they had. It was because that's all they had. :-(
Once we finally got out of the hospital, we went to eat at the place where Shane used to work. From there we went to the grocery store - so Shannon could get her prescriptions filled tonight & so that we could get them some groceries, which was Seth's idea. Since I'm all about the food, I don't know why it didn't occur to me, but it didn't. When we were about done shopping for food stuff, I asked if there was anything else they needed - like toiletries - shampoo, etc. Mike said they needed new toothbrushes. That kinda got to me.
I had some really rough times when I was younger. I've been hungry with nothing to eat at times, etc. And Seth & I have struggled financially so I can kinda understand where they're at. But we never went without the bare necessities (toothbrushes) & we were never hungry with only bread & jelly to eat - thanks to Seth's family & our Ecclesial family. It just breaks my heart to see someone in this situation. They don't complain about things or intentionally make you feel sorry for them. We ask questions & find things out that way.
The whole thing is just so sad. Seth & I are extremely hopeful that we can make a difference in their lives & get them going in the right direction.