They slept in a real bed for the first time in a long time on Tuesday night. :-) The things so many of us take for granted...
Their sentencing date was Jan. 24th. It's been put off for a week or 2. The "Pre-Sentencing" people never contacted them until this week. They meet with these people on Tuesday. Seth & I will go along for support & to add our 2 cents. Maybe if the judge & the other court people realize that we have plans in place to help these 2 get on their feet, they'll go a little easier on them. Can't hurt to try.
We're trying to make their lives as comfortable as we can until they have to leave. That means buying Shannon all the chocolate stuff she wants, for one thing! And Mike loves bread so I picked up a couple loaves of Panera bread for him. I'm getting to feel like a mom again & that makes me really happy.
Mike is only too eager to help around the house - he vacuumed & steam cleaned the living room carpet yesterday while I was at the dentist. Shannon's just kinda relaxing & letting the 3 of us take care of her - which is what I want - she's almost 8 months pregnant & very scared about her future. They are able to keep themselves occupied. They've been doing jigsaw puzzles, Sudoku, etc. Seth set up a computer for them so they can play around & watch DVDs on it. I was concerned that they would be terribly bored here. It's very peaceful & quiet for the most part - not what they're used to! That doesn't seem to be a problem. :-)
They went to Wed. night Bible Class with Seth & they are at Friday night Family Bible Readings with him this evening - because they wanted to go.
All of this is bringing back a lot of good memories of Shane. Mike is a year younger than Shane would be right now. And with the baby coming, it's bringing back a lot of memories from when Shane was a baby. Having a baby here will allow me to be a surrogate Grandma. I had just given up on the Grandma thing.
The situation has been very good for all of us. Seth & I are thankful that we've been blessed enough to be able to help these 2 kids & expand our 2-person family. It's almost selfish of us because it feels so good to be able to provide for those who have some real basic needs & who truly appreciate what we're doing for them.
If Shane was still alive, our lives would be totally different & we wouldn't be involved in this situation. Is this the reason we had to lose him? I don't know if there is "a reason" for why he died but I really want to there to be one. And I've been praying for a reason for me to keep going on in this life for the past 2 3/4 yrs. I needed a purpose to keep living. Mike & Shannon & their unborn child have given that to me. A reason to look forward to the future, when there was nothing to look forward to for so long. I think all of us will be better people for coming together as a family when all is said & done. There is a lot of love here...
I wasn't home long before we had to leave to pick up Shannon & Mike. Shannon had a Dr's appt. today with her OB/GYN Doc. The two of them have been pretty much walking everywhere they needed to go for awhile now. It's starting to get a bit cold now. When I talked to Shannon the last time, I told her to call us if she needs something - a ride some place or whatever. She called yesterday to ask if we could take her to her appt. I'm so glad she did, for a number of reasons:
1. Neither of them have winter jackets/coats & it was windy & cold today.
2. She was in some real pain since yesterday & was sent to the hospital ER from her Dr's appt. to find out what was going on. She has a urinary tract infection. I can't even imagine them walking to the Dr's & then all the way to the hospital & then back to the place where they are staying again. We're not talking a mile or 2 or even 5 here.
3. While we were waiting for Shannon to be called back to be examined at the ER she mentioned that she was hungry. We were planning to go out to eat together anyway. She said that all she had to eat today was a piece of jelly bread. At one point Seth asked her why that was all she had to eat - because that's all she wanted or because that's all they had. It was because that's all they had. :-(
Once we finally got out of the hospital, we went to eat at the place where Shane used to work. From there we went to the grocery store - so Shannon could get her prescriptions filled tonight & so that we could get them some groceries, which was Seth's idea. Since I'm all about the food, I don't know why it didn't occur to me, but it didn't. When we were about done shopping for food stuff, I asked if there was anything else they needed - like toiletries - shampoo, etc. Mike said they needed new toothbrushes. That kinda got to me.
I had some really rough times when I was younger. I've been hungry with nothing to eat at times, etc. And Seth & I have struggled financially so I can kinda understand where they're at. But we never went without the bare necessities (toothbrushes) & we were never hungry with only bread & jelly to eat - thanks to Seth's family & our Ecclesial family. It just breaks my heart to see someone in this situation. They don't complain about things or intentionally make you feel sorry for them. We ask questions & find things out that way.
The whole thing is just so sad. Seth & I are extremely hopeful that we can make a difference in their lives & get them going in the right direction.
Gosh - I haven't updated since April?! Here's a quick rundown:
I quit my job at the bank on Sept. 6th but ended up continuing to work there for at least one day a week up until the end of October. I left for a Cook job at a local nursing home. I started there on Sept. 5th - training for a few hours after I left the bank. I went full-time on Sept. 21st & quit the next week. The cooking was not what I was looking for - not what I wanted to do. I ended up there until halfway thru Nov. to help train my replacement.
Since then I've been unemployed but I manage to keep real busy! I started doing Girl's Cooking Class on Fridays with some of the young ladies at our Ecclesia. And I still do a meal a month at the local shelter. I'll be there for Christmas Day again this year.
Jed left us on Dec. 6th to move to British Columbia. He's having some trouble getting across the border. :-( As far as I know, he's still in the Seattle area. We miss him an awful lot - he was the best house guest/room-mate ever.
Now for the latest: the 20-yr. old daughter of a former co-worker/friend of mine is pregnant & in some legal trouble. She may have to do some time in prison. We'll find out on Jan. 24th. The baby is due around March 6th. Seth & I are going to be temporary guardians if she has the baby while she is doing time. When she gets out, she will come & live with us & her baby until she is able to get on her feet. Her husband is in the same trouble & will probably be doing 2 years time. There are no family members in the area who are willing or able to help out.
We're very excited about all of this - we're gonna have a baby here!!! I never thought I'd see that day! And we're going to give someone the opportunity to turn their life around & get on the right path. Hopefully, it will be the "narrow path" when all is said & done, but that's not a requirement for her to live here. She only needs to behave herself & not get into any more trouble.
Our family - both blood family & Ecclesial family - have been so generous. And they're almost as excited as we are!
Naturally, we have nothing for a baby. Everyone is really coming thru with things to loan us or give to us. We have most of the big things taken care of already: cradle, crib, stroller, high chair, bouncy chair, play yard, car seats, baby monitor, bathtub...
Our lives are about to turn upside down in so many ways but we are really looking forward to it! It's kinda scary but it will all work out for the best.